In business I am just on. I walk in, grab my coffee and drink it  while I’m pursue the Financial Times and then hit the deluge of emails that await me. It’s second nature to me to run a meeting, assess the work of my team, motivate my team and make the hard decisions about resource retention and layoffs. The funny thing is when I look back at my romantic relationships I would actually fire myself.

The “click” for me was when I realized that as a business woman I am running a multimillion dollar company with precision, assertiveness and tenacity. But why in heck am I not doing the same thing when it comes to my romantic relationships? The ah ha moment came when I was flying cross country and dreading responding to guy who was nice but not the one I would want to spend anymore time with. But, here I am sitting in business class hemming and hawing about the possibility of going on another date with him. It was like a swift kick in the gut. If this was a business situation I would walk away and not invest one iota of additional time in something that would not be good for business. So, the same holds true for my romantic life. I realized that I am the boss lady/CEO of my love life and need to run it with the same precision as I do my customer’s business.

Ladies, my wish is to empower each of you to know that you are the CEO of your own company — YOU. If the guy does not meet your “relationship criteria” then you pass on that candidate. Now, for candidates who do pass the relationship criteria it doesn’t mean that you take your eye off of the requirements for the position as your partner. Just like with work there is a 90-180 probationary period. If the candidate does not perform as expected it is time to fire him.

See how easy this is when you focus on the brass tax of meeting requirements? There is no emotion because — its just business.