Valentine’s Day, the dreaded holiday for single women everywhere. The bombardment of all things love and coupledom starts on January 1st and continues to gain speed up until the culminating date (no pun intended) of February 14th. This level of pressure can drive any woman to make a not so wise decision about love. The foundation of Boss Lady Basics is all about women take the leadership role in their lives by running their life like a successful business. As the “leader of your life” making decisions is your most critical job. Deciding who is going to share that corner office with you is high stakes decision making. The more high stakes a decision the more likely you are to get stuck. So, to help you get unstuck, here are a few tips to help you decide if you want to “hire him or fire him” for that all-important spot.
- Demand Evidence: Use the same thought process as you would in running a business. Step away from the emotion of being single and not wanting to be alone on Valentine’s Day, take a deep breath and think. Think of it this way. If someone came into your office and asked you to commit your heart, share your already small apartment and financial resources to something unproven would you? Of course not. Demand from yourself to do the due diligence about a love candidate before you commit your heart, soul, square footage and wallet. If a guys keeps telling you that he’s all that and a bag a chips just wait and see. Doing so will save you time, heartache and closet space.
- Examine Your Logic: Our emotions have a not so funny way of clouding the best of judgment and during this “love heightened time” it’s difficult at best. When it comes to decisions about love our thinking really goes off the deep end. You remember those times when you said to yourself “what was I thinking?” Exactly! This goes back to point #1 because it requires you to look closely at the evidence to make sure that the logic you’re using holds up.
- Balance Short Term NEEDS with Long Term GOALS: This means exactly what you’re thinking. Mr. Right Now is not necessarily Mr. Right.
- List the Pros and Cons: This actually works for a lot of scenarios because it forces you to think in totality about the good and the not so good. Here’s the kicker, just be careful how you weight your pros because it could lead you to making a costly decision. Read #5 for more explanation.
- No Anchoring: Anchoring is a business term that basically means that a decision maker disproportionately weighs the first set of information received. For example, if he’s a hot under-employed model and you had a great first date you may disproportionally weigh highly the fact that he’s a hot model and discount the fact that he’s under-employed, living with roommates and you’ve paid for dates 2-10. Now this could be a perfect example of point #3 but be wise enough to know the difference.