Happiness. Some people say it’s elusive. Some people say that to be happy all you have to do it chose it. Others say it’s a never ending search. But I can tell you from my own experience happiness is a choice and it doesn’t have to be hard. Here are 4 sure fire ways to increase your happiness.
1. Don’t be a people pleaser. Yes, I said it. Don’t try to please everyone. There is one thing for certain, pleasing everyone will ensure one thing – you will be unhappy. Truth is you are never going to please everyone anyway. It’s impossible because at some point you will hold an unpopular opinion – one that gives you meaning and invigorates you. Now what are you going to do? Give up to make someone else happy? No.
2. Realize that it ain’t easy. This is not going to be easy because if it was everyone would be doing it. Choosing happiness means that you will have to do hard things, do things you don’t want to do but have to do. You will need to do things that are scary. But these scary, hard things are the things that define you and ultimately make a difference between living life and just “existing.”
3. Understand that nothing is for certain. My personal coach said to me once if your life isn’t messy that means that you are existing on a small, closed plane. Take risks and be open. Open yourself up to new experiences and people. So many of us would rather stay being miserable than the risk of being happy. The certainty in the miserableness is way more comfortable than the risk of doing something new. Let go of certainty and be a dreamer. Start your day saying to yourself “today will be a good day, good things will happen.” Believe that good things will happen. Be a believer. What I learned is that it takes more than a plan to do something. You must also DO. Go about your day in a positive fashion. Spread positivity. Motivate. Be courageous.
4. Don’t give a “bleep” about the Joneses: Compete with yourself because that is the key to freedom. Don’t keep score. Existing thinking that you have to be richer, smarter and more attractive than the next person makes your world small, perpetually keeps you alienated and running in circles, like a hamster on a hamster wheel. But, what if you lived your life not trying to keep score? Now, that’s freedom.