When people do not communicate or connect with us in the way that we need, it’s easy for us to internalize that as a reflection of our worth. I have a bad habit of doing that too. But then I remember, the way other people operate is not about me.
We see it everyday. People are caught up in their own stuff – their own struggles, battles and anxieties that the thought of asking someone else about how “they” are doing doesn’t even cross their mind. Why? Because they are so caught up in their own stuff. This doesn’t mean that they are uncaring or bad. They are just self centered.
Their being self centered is not a failing on your part. Their self centeredness doesn’t make you unlovable or invisible. Just means that some people, most people, are not good at looking beyond their own “stuff.” But you are. You have the capability to share your love with others while you are dealing with your own “stuff.”
This doesn’t mean that you have to change who you are. The goal is to find people who are able to give you the connection you need because despite what you feel you are not too much. You are not too sensitive or too needy.
You are thoughtful, empathetic, compassionate, loving and kind. Regardless of the acknowledgment and affection of someone else, you are unequivocally enough.