Happiness. Big word with even bigger meaning. It’s elusive but everyone wants it. Wants to find it. Cultivate it. Have it. But for some it’s not easy. I’m not going to tell you that I have the secret answer to happiness and know exactly where to find it like locating the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. I can however tell you how to add more happiness to your life right now. Reality is that you may not be happy ALL the time but you can have the effects of happiness in your life right now and here’s how:
(1) Be Grateful: Don’t focus on what you don’t have. Think about all the things in your life you DO HAVE. Think of all of things that you have to be grateful in your life and BE grateful for them. Want to know a big trick that will quickly change your state? Write them down on a piece of paper. Better yet, keep a gratitude journal and write something down everyday. It’s hard not to have a smile come across your face and you spirit rise as you read all of these amazing things in your life that you do have.
(2) Comparisons: We know of people who strive to compare themselves to others…how better they are, how much better their life is etc. These folks have an unhealthy sense of superiority. Comparing yourself socially or otherwise to other people is poisonous. Same goes for the flip side. If you are worse than someone else you totally discredit any and all progress you made before. So, just don’t compare yourself to other people. That’s the worse of the slippery slope to be on. If you are going to compare yourself to someone compare yourself to an earlier version of yourself and strive to continue to be a better person.
(3) Learn to Forgive: This is a hard one…even for me because people do some of the most heinous, rude and dastardly things. But remember you are not condoning their bad behavior or even saying they are right. What you are doing is releasing the negative emotion. Harboring ill will towards someone is the equivalent of you taking the poison. All of that negative emotion is taking a toll on YOU and YOUR immune system. So, forgive and move on.